Staying ok of “Thomas E.” Harris is an American author and psychiatrist, and his wife, Amy B. Harris, is a journalist and educator. First published in 1985 under the original title “Staying ok”, this book is a sequel to The Last Status (originally entitled “I Am Good, You Are Good”).
The general theme of the audio book Staying ok is how to deal with bad feelings in life, how to try to feel good about ourselves, and finally how to have a happier and more relaxed life.
Staying ok explains the theory of reciprocal behavior. It first gives a brief overview of parent-adult-child concepts and then discusses ways to use reciprocal behavior analysis to improve one’s personal life and relationships with others.
In fact, this book is written with a focus on the self-help aspect and is considered a complement to the previous book, ie the last situation.
Staying in the final state of the book is with the same sensitivity, insight, humor and compassion that my book I Am Good in (by the same authors) was written.
Leading psychiatrists and pioneers of revolutionary psychological analysis, Amy and Tom Harris, show how you can stay that way and make the most of every day of your life.
This book gives you tips on making important changes and responsibilities in your life, resolving conflicts and rooting out the causes of worry, panic, depression, regret, confusion and feelings of inadequacy.
Staying in the Last Stand is one of the best-selling books on psychology. As the authors themselves have stated, this book is the result of all their thirty years of research and exploration as a psychiatrist.
Staying in the Last Situation is a continuation of The Last Situation. The book The Last Situation examines how to create a good feeling, and the book Staying in the Last Situation explores how to maintain that feeling.
In a part of the book, staying ok, we hear:
The sweet and wonderful aspect of being young is that if we have to start over, we can. Most of us are no longer young, and the past is behind us like an old stray dog, rubbing its feathers and feet to draw attention to itself, shedding its long white hair on the carpet of life.
If we order him to go and sit in a corner, he will go and sit, but he will return soon. The past is always with us, with all its good and bad moments, with all the feelings that were with those good and bad moments. The good feelings of the past are reminiscent of golden moments that we sometimes want to recall with joy.
But what usually presses on our minds the most are bad feelings, feelings of sadness, the feelings of a little girl or boy who wanted to burn and be deprived.
This book, in an intimate and simple tone, expresses and examines the events and moods that we have all experienced; It is as if we feel annoyed remorse for what we have done or said; Or like the times when we start our day in a very good mood and a small unpleasant event and even a recollection of bad memories of the past, in a fraction of a second, ruins everything.
The authors of this book begin by plotting these familiar events and then explore how we can overcome such bad feelings and offer solutions to them.
Next, the book goes a step further and examines psychologically why people react differently to bad things; “Why do some people seem more self-reliant and ‘good’ than others? Why do some people seem almost like little princes from the very first days and others do not?”
It then explains how we can prepare children to face life’s problems so that they do not allow any unpleasant events to affect and control them.
The relationship between staying in the book and the theory of interaction behavior analysis (TA):
Reciprocal behaviors are interactions between human beings in which feedback is expected from the other party, such as greeting or shaking hands.
The theory of reciprocal behavior analysis states that each person’s personality consists of three parts: child, parent, and adult. The child section is responsible for our irrational and hasty behaviors and for any behaviors we learn as children.
The parent section subconsciously imitates the parents’ behavior or our perception of their behavior; Actions such as blaming and supporting. The adult part of our being includes our rational and correct behaviors according to the conditions of the present time and place.
Our adult part is the part that thinks, analyzes and is in fact our intellect.
This theory predicts which part of oneself one’s future behaviors by identifying; As a result, it can be used to enhance interactions and make it easier to control yourself.
Staying in the final state uses interactional behavior analysis to teach us how to improve our response to the bad feelings that are attacking us, and to create a good feeling by managing the three parts of our personality.
About the authors:
Thomas Anthony Harris was born on April 18, 1910 in San Antonio, Texas. He received his bachelor of science degree from the University of Arkansas in 1938, and in 1940 received his medical degree from Temple University School of Medicine.
After graduation, he joined the Navy as a medical intern. Harris was present when the USS Plus submarine was attacked in December 1941, after which he developed permanent hearing problems.
After completing his apprenticeship in 1942, Thomas Harris began studying psychiatry at St. Elizabeth Hospital in Washington, D.C., and returned to the Navy after completing his residency. After the end of the war, he served as head of the psychiatric unit of the USS Owen.
Harris eventually became head of the Navy Psychiatry, and retired from the Navy in 1954 when he became commander.
After retiring, he became chairman of the Washington State Institutions Group, and at the same time played an important role in thwarting the Valawala prisoner riot. However, he soon gave up office work and opened a private clinic in Sacramento.
Harris had a long-standing friendship with Eric Byrne, the founder of the theory of reciprocal behavior analysis, which began when they were both among the few US military psychiatrists. He was also a key member of Bern’s “Behavior Analysis” seminar in San Francisco, which was held weekly for a decade and laid the groundwork for the theory.
Harris was a supporter of group therapy and interaction behavior analysis, preferring it to traditional psychoanalysis.
He died on May 4, 1995 in Sacramento, California. Amy B. Harris, wife of Thomas Anthony Harris, was a speaker and journalist and was born in 1929. He has authored two books so far, one of which is Staying in the Last Stand.
The purpose of Staying in the Last Stand, which is the logical continuation of The Last Stand, written 16 years later, is to use the tool of “reciprocal behavior analysis” to deal with bad feelings and create good feelings. Because good feelings provide the energy needed to rejuvenate the journey of life.
But what is “reciprocal behavior analysis”?
Suppose you divide your personality into three parts: “parent”, “adult”, and “child”; You say or do something to your friend and he says or does something to your friend.
“Interaction Behavior Analysis” is understanding the fact which of the three parts of your personality initiates this exchange of behavior and which of the three parts of your friend’s personality responds.
If as a child we felt sorry for others, but the reality today is that we are not helpless at all, although we may feel that we are.
Many people, surrounded by bad emotions, lose more and more energy every day. Failure, dependence, and confusion can actually overwhelm us, ruin our plans, and shatter the connections we seek, and ultimately plunge us into deep frustration and despair that we feel utterly futile.
By reading “staying in the last state” we understand that: each person is unique; Feelings are real; We can change our feelings; And we were all children one day.
The book “Staying in the Last Stand” by Amy B. Harris “and” Thomas E. Harris. This book has been translated by Ismail Fassih. This book is one of the best-selling books in the field of psychology.
The caption reads: “The final status book was the result of all my three years of research and research as a psychiatrist. The excitement of the publication of that book showed the real impact of its teachings.
Since then, I have received thousands of letters from various people, from different groups and classes of society, and from different professions and opinions, which indicate the positive impact of this psychiatric achievement. The authors of the letters also sought further information and explanation.
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