Loving each other : the challenge of human relationships is the fruit that has grown from the class of love; And it is by no means intended to be a scientific, philosophical book, or a definitive work on the subject of love. Instead, the book is a collection of theories, feelings, and observations from a group of people that the author believes fit the human condition.
The book Life of Love and No More by Leo Buscalia has been translated by Sarvanaz Sadeghi.
If you love someone, you look at them carefully, they are changing every day with a beautiful and gradual process, and if you do not learn to look at them properly, you will miss this beautiful change. When did you look at your wife’s face? As a child? your mother? When was the last time you looked at your mother’s face? When was the last time you looked deeply into your face? Not when you shaved your beard or washed your face, or rubbed your eye shadow, when was it when you just looked at yourself in a moment of calm?
One asked, “What is a lover?”
I said do not ask for these meanings
When you see me
When he reads you, read (Hazrat Mowlana)
If you want to participate in the journey of love, you must learn love. Love is a learnable phenomenon. In this training, you must do the simplest thing in the world. The easiest thing in the world is to be yourself, and the hardest thing in the world is to be who others want you to be, so find yourself and be who you are.
So always say I exist, I am, I am here, I am growing, I am the only one who makes my life, only me and no one else! I have to face my shortcomings, mistakes, sins and mistakes. No one will suffer as much as I do, but tomorrow is another day and I have to decide to live again, and if I fail, I will not blame you, neither life, nor God.
Excerpts from the book Love Life and no other writings by Leo Buscalia
I exist, I am, I am here, I am becoming, I am the only one who makes my life. Only me and no one else;
I have to face my shortcomings, mistakes and sins and mistakes. No one will suffer as much as I do, but tomorrow is another day and I have to decide to leave bed and live again, and if I fail, I will not blame you, life or God. .
Summary of the book Loving each other : the challenge of human relationships
The remarkable point in this book is that every human being has a special interpretation of love, as the author of the book says:
According to our beliefs and experiences, our meanings of love are different. For example, love for a mother, devotee and lover can mean love for the child, love for God and love for the beloved, but love is beyond what can be limited.
In this book we learn that we should love all human beings of all races, backgrounds and colors, because we are one, as the author says, we are more similar than we are different, and when we love ourselves, we will love others. And to hold ourselves accountable to others, as Key Berkgard puts it: Only when you love responsibly does love last forever, keep you happy, and safe from despair.
And we learn to accept and love others as they are, not as we want them to be.
Throughout his book, Leobuscalia asks us to grow in love, and he sees the root of all mental illness in not expressing love.
The topics of the book of love are a learnable phenomenon
Man needs to love
What is love
Love does not know youth and old age
There are many obstacles to love
To love others, you must love yourself
To love, free yourself from the yoke of tags
Love requires responsibility
Love recognizes needs and wants
Love requires being strong
There is no excuse for love
Love life and no more –
I have seen a person who sheds tears and others look at him sadly, someone may bring a handkerchief, but no one ever opens his arms! You can express your love the way you want and feel. It is a matter of feeling love in oneself and in others. In fact, all the beauty of the story is in discovering this love.
In many countries, children are taught not to express their feelings! And to keep it in their hearts, they have said that a young woman does not laugh out loud! Men do not cry! And women who cry are very emotional and weak! Who said such things ?! Why should we take orders from others to live ?! I always cry. I shed tears of joy in joy, I cry in sorrow. Tears well up in my eyes when I hear a beautiful sentence from a student.
If you have a feeling, let others know that such a feeling is rippling through you. If you feel like laughing, laugh very well. If you like what someone says, go to them and show it to them with a loving gesture. It is unnatural for a person to hide his feelings, but if he learns this from childhood, he will do so. Every time I go to Italy to visit my relatives, they express their feelings so sweetly and warmly that they leave no room for doubt in love. I understand and feel that they are happy to meet me.
You can not believe it! I was caught in their cries of happiness, in their expressions of love, in their hugs and kisses and caresses, all of which are to say yes to their feelings! You do not know what a beautiful passion is. I grew up in such an environment, my family always showed their feelings and expressed them openly. But it is understandable for those who are not accustomed to this emotional storm, these experiences can be too scary and even depressing. Physically, our separation and distance as human beings is even greater.
It is a matter of knowing how far we can go from others, not how close we can get to them. This simple touch can provide far more communication than any words or expressions of affection. Hugging or touching someone’s shoulder means I see you, I feel with you, it’s important to me.
A young woman said: It’s really funny, no one hesitates to pet a small child, or a hand on a stranger dog, but sometimes I sit here alone, and while I die to caress no one caresses me! None of us trusts other people to know that we like to have a loving hand on our head or a hand on our shoulder. Because we are afraid that everything will be distorted, so we sit in solitude and physical isolation and remain anonymous. The easiest thing in the world is to be who we are and to show what we feel. The hardest thing in the world is to be what others want us to be.
The last impression one can get for such a book is that it was written by a young man. The description of the details and the expression of the mental and emotional states of the protagonist’s character is written so precisely and delicately that it seems that only a woman who has experienced such events can write such a story.
“Dan Mallory” with the literary name “E. جی. Finn surprised the world of literature in 2018 by writing this book. The book was quickly translated into several languages and published in various countries. The American author, who previously worked as a critic for the Washington Post and the Los Angeles Times, became one of the New York Times bestsellers with the publication of his first book.
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