Crazy love


Title: Destructive Love

Author: Kelly Murray, Brad Johnson

Translator: Zahra Hosseinzadeh, Elham Shafiei

Publisher: Rasa

Subject: relationships between people, personality

Age category: Adult

Cover: Paperback

Number of pages: 304 p

Language: Farsi



Crazy love : dealing with your partners problem personality in three chapters examines the characteristics of people with personality disorders and how to choose or not to choose these people wisely as a partner. The content of these sections helps readers to have an informed and accurate knowledge of their spouse and partner.

Crazy love : dealing with your partners problem personality book
Our lives are full of big and small events, each of which affects the process and type of decisions and, consequently, our choices. Challenges such as choosing a field of study, a job and choosing friends. But one of the major challenges in most people’s lives is relationships and marriage. Because it can be said that the result of marriage, whether successful or unsuccessful, affects the course and progress of our lives.

In the modern world today, relationships are so complicated that when an acquaintance is formed between two people, they both need to know if they are good enough for each other. Is it in their best interest to continue the relationship that has developed between them or is it wrong to continue it? Brad Johnson’s Destructive Love by Kelly Murray answers these questions effectively and helps readers make the right decision to form and continue their relationship.

A review of the chapters of the book Crazy love : dealing with your partners problem personality
The first chapter of the book consists of three parts. The first section, entitled “Destructive Love,” describes the characteristics of the abnormal people we interact with and offers strategies for selecting and treating those individuals. In this episode, the authors of the book, Brad Johnson and Kelly Murray, reassure the reader that if they follow their advice, they will not get involved with strangers: “By identifying the disorders in a timely manner, you will gain a great deal of power in selecting and screening the person with the personality disorder, and you will be safe from the torment of conscience that remains with you after leaving them.”

In the second part of the first chapter, entitled “Personality Illness”, readers gain an understanding of the unusual partner. This section answers the question, what is personality disorder? And what are the differences between the habits of these people and the rest? In a section of this section, the authors describe these individuals as “in short, people with personality disorders are confronted with fixed patterns of thinking and experiencing the world and love relationships that exist at all times and in all situations and are associated with poor performance.” . In the following, this section describes various factors such as genetics and childhood background that cause a person to have these types of disorders, and offers solutions to identify these characters.
The third section, entitled “How to Attract a Person with a Personality Disorder”, provides 9 reasons to answer the question of why we are attracted to such people, and then warns the reader: “What should be done? If you make a mistake, you will realize that it is probably the same as misguidance and deviation. Maybe you have given up caution, maybe you have acted too bluntly, maybe you have focused only on a certain attractive feature, maybe there is no sign of a problem at first. Whatever the cause of communication failure, be careful not to generalize or imagine it. It is your destiny to repeat this mistake. Read this guide carefully and get acquainted with different forms of personality disorder. “Eventually you will find that you have to open your eyes more and be more alert in the future.”

The second chapter of Destructive Love begins in the fourth chapter and continues until the fifteenth chapter. In these sections, the types of characters are examined and strategies for reacting to each character group are provided. The fourth section is for Group A, the “skeptical candidate,” which examines the paranoid personality, behavioral symptoms of people with the condition, their way of thinking, how this type of personality is formed, and the choice of a paranoid person as a spouse. In the continuation of this issue, strategies for correct treatment of this group of people are stated. The fifth section, entitled “Isolated Candidate”, describes in detail the characteristics of isolated individuals and the personality of schizophrenics and how to deal with schizophrenics.

The second group is “prominent, capricious and dangerous wives.” This is the seventh part of the book, which explains the characteristics of anti-social characters and dangerous personalities, and how to deal with these people, and finally provides the necessary solutions and warnings. In the eighth section, entitled “Chaotic Candidate”, the characteristics of the frontier personality are examined. The screen character is another type of character that is described in the ninth section of “Theatrical Candidate”. In the following, the characteristics of narcissistic characters, obedient-aggressive personality, cowardly and avoidant personalities, dependent personality, obsessive-compulsive personality, and sad and depressed personality are fully discussed. In each section, cognition, coping strategies, treatment methods, warnings and recommendations for each personality type are provided to the readers.
After identifying the types of personality disorders that were presented in the previous sections. The third chapter of the book shows the conclusion and the final solution to people so that they can make the best and most correct decision if they have not yet entered into a serious relationship with people with personality disorder or if they are married to these people. Finally, this book asks its readers to know the personality types and find the reason for their interest in someone who has these characteristics. Finally, be aware of the symptoms of the absorption pattern and the patient’s personality types. Seek professional help. “The fact that you are constantly dealing with people with personality disorders is not just a matter of luck. Consider the possibility that something in this type of personality attracts you, and then ask yourself why.”

Who is the destructive love book suitable for?
There is no limit to reading this book because it is suitable for all people in the community who are looking to start a relationship. Each person can use the book Destructive Love to examine and analyze the characteristics of the person in order to make the right choice based on conscious cognition. This book is for those who think they are related to people with personality disorders.

Of course, anyone who is looking for healthy relationships and a more accurate knowledge of themselves should not miss this book. Single girls and boys who want to start a relationship, candidates who want to get to know each other better, people who are forced to divorce in their previous relationship and are hesitant to start a new relationship, psychologists who seek to develop science and knowledge Are, all in the audience of the book Destructive Love. One of the features of this book is that it does not tell you to separate from your spouse or stay with him / her, but it shows you the way of knowing and making a measured and conscious decision.

Who are the writers of destructive love?
Professor Brad Johnson, a clinical psychologist and lecturer at prestigious American universities, including Hopkins University, first wrote the book Destructive Love in 2007 with Dr. Kelly Murray. Professor Johnson is a professor of psychology at one of the leading military universities in the United States. Today, she helps many people with books, seminars and counseling sessions around the world. In addition to his devastating love, Professor Johnson has written seven other books on psychology and counseling.

Professor Kelly Murray is Assistant Professor and Director of University Education in Clinical Psychology in Baltimore, USA. He is also a clinical psychologist, researching psychological disorders, relationships, and trauma.

Crazy love : dealing with your partners problem personality; Seventh edition
In 1988, Rasa Publications as a publisher, translated by Elham Shafiei and Zahra Hosseinzadeh, published this book with 3300 copies. The book reached its seventh edition by 1993, which shows the attention of Persian-speaking readers to this book. Another successful translation of this book has been published by “Katibeh Parsi” published by “Mohsen Sadough”. This book has fluent and simple prose, and in both versions, the writing of specialized terms has been avoided so that the general readers can easily use the contents of the book.

We read in parts of the book Destructive Love
It is normal for an antisocial person to break social rules. In fact, he thinks that the law is binding on everyone except himself. He may find the law something stupid or unnecessary. Your dangerous lover probably feels that he or she is above the law and therefore allows himself or herself to break the law. Therefore, such people violate the law in their own interests whenever necessary. Their two golden rules are: “Do what others want you to do against you, and do whatever you want with others.”

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