Be brave girl

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Title: Be brave girl

Author: Rishma Sujati

Translator: Anahita Karimi

Publisher: Divan

Subject: Girls, women, women’s self-esteem, psychology, women’s leadership

Age category: Adult

Cover: Paperback

Number of pages: 208

Language: Farsi

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Be brave girl: The courage to leave perfectionism for girls by Rishma Sujani, one of the New York Times and Wall Street Journal bestsellers, shares powerful insights and ways to get rid of the “need for perfection” and all Take the path of courage in life.

Reshma Saujani believes that all of you can learn enough courage, so she wrote the book Brave, not perfect: fear less, fail more, and live bolder to help you achieve your biggest dreams. find.

Whether that dream is to become a millionaire, to conquer Mount Everest, or to live without fear of judgment, it will always be possible when you overcome the flawless planning of a flawless girl and learn courage.
“Life becomes small or large in proportion to human courage,” wrote Anaiz Nin. If this is true, then courage is the key to achieving the best life you can build for yourself.

According to Rishma Sujani, every woman deserves the freedom from the suffocation of “perfection or failure” and the happy and carefree life she has dreamed of.

Imagine not being afraid to be good enough in your life; You do not care what your life looks like on Instagram, or what strangers think of you.

Imagine being able to get rid of guilt and not make small mistakes. What if you chose a bolder path in every decision you had to make?
Many of you feel overwhelmed by the pressure of your own expectations. To keep everyone happy, you have to give up.

The thought of not hurting anyone has robbed you of sleep and food. You ignore opportunities that take you out of your comfort zone and avoid being unacceptable at all costs.

Rishma says there is a reason for this behavior and mindset: When we were girls, we were taught to choose safe games. Benevolent parents and teachers praised us for being quiet and polite.

They asked us to be careful not to get hurt, and they led us to activities in which we could “shine.” As a result, we are now women who are afraid of failure.
It is time to let your fears overwhelm your dreams, limit your world and take away your happiness.

By choosing to be brave instead of perfect, you can find self-confidence and leave behind anything that makes you unhappy and pursue the things that you really want with passion.

Perfectionism may put you on a path to feeling safe, but it takes your courage to the path you really want.

Angela Duckworth, a professor of psychology at the University of Pennsylvania and author of the book Stubbornness, says of the book:
“I love this book!” This is a timely message for women and girls of all ages: Perfection is not only impossible but, worse, destructive. “The very fluent and honest prose of this book makes you feel like you are sitting next to Rishma and telling each other your stories.”

Part of the book Be Brave Girl
The belief that boys are strong and that girls are weak and that they need to be protected is widespread and profound. In 2017, the World Health Organization unveiled a new study conducted in collaboration with Johns Hopkins University School of Public Health.

In fifteen countries, from the United States to China and Nigeria, these gender stereotypes have been proven to be universal and enduring; This research showed that children at a very young age believe this myth.

The “girls are softer” mentality goes beyond the playground and gets right into the classroom. The problem is, what do girls focus on if they receive rigorous feedback?
When girls are told that they have given the wrong answer or made a mistake, the only thing they hear is their rebuke, which breaks the heart like a fiery arrow.
They infer directly from the phrase “I made a mistake” “I’m awful” and seldom think that “I can do it better next time”.

But the bigger problem is the bigger reaction. In order not to hurt the tender feelings of girls, we usually make anything that seems vital diminish and insignificant.

The more we protect them, the more we get along with them, the more we lead them to the “safe” direction, and the more we reinforce this self-fulfilling prophecy that girls are vulnerable.

But if we keep pushing them away from the sharp, winning edges, how can they be expected to be strong and not fall apart when faced with real criticism and failure in life?
Rishma Sujani talks about an important topic with girls in the book Brave Girl. An issue that perhaps all girls in all nationalities and cultures are involved with and often challenge.

This feature that Rishma Sujani is talking about is nothing but perfectionism and its consequences.
Perfectionism means striving for perfection and perfection at its highest level. It means always being dissatisfied with ourselves and our behavior and not even starting something because we can not be the best at it.

Many women only do things that are great for them and do not have the courage to do things that might be a little more ordinary.

In this book, Rishma Sujani explains why women have such characteristics. He believes that there is a reason for this behavior and feelings of women.

It has nothing to do with biology and only with their upbringing.
From an early age, girls are taught to be conservative, to try to get the highest score for the happiness of parents and teachers, to be careful not to climb too many playground bars so as not to fall and get hurt, to sit calmly and obediently, to be beautiful. Be consistent and pleasant to be loved.

“The tendency to be flawless also has a detrimental effect on our health,” he says.

Because meditating on the slightest mistake or worry about the person’s discomfort, or what we did and what we said, causes insomnia.

Because we are trained to be useful and flexible at all costs, we give up trying to do all of this and eventually become tired, exhausted, and even sick because we spend so much of our time and energy on others. .

This book looks at our past upbringing to be perfect and avoid failure at all costs, and how that upbringing of girls’ childhood and adulthood follows us.
Most importantly, this book is about changing what you have learned. It is never too late. By giving up the need to be flawless and learning to be brave, we can all have the courage of the unimaginable.

Sentences from the book Be Brave Girl
We live in an age of girlish power. From passionate Beyoncé songs to powerful athletes like Serena Williams and literary and cinematic heroes such as Katniss Ordin and The Amazing Woman, our culture strives to bring girls together to tell them that they can do whatever they want and be who they want to be.

Of course, we want our daughters to know that they can achieve whatever they have in mind. Is it other than this?
But there is also a downside to this “positive” messaging. We target these extraordinary women with the goal of empowering them; But for many girls, this is seen as a crushing push to be flawless.

We may say, “You can do anything and become whatever you want,” but what they hear is, “You have to do everything and become whatever you want.” What we encourage is expectations for them.

Book List Be Brave Girl
Introduction: The courage of the impossible

Part 1: How girls are trained to perfection

1: Polite and loving girl

2: Imperfect mentality

3: Flawless Stage 3: When a flawless girl reaches adulthood

Part II: Courage is the new fashion

4: The new definition of courage

5: Why should we be brave?

Part 3: Say goodbye to the perfect girl; The path of courage

6: Develop a mindset of courage

7: Get caught while trying

8: End the need to please others

9: Play in a brave team

10: Salvation from a great defeat

Rishma says there is a reason for this behavior and mindset: When we were girls, we were taught to choose safe games. Benevolent parents and teachers praised us for being quiet and polite.
They asked us to be careful not to get hurt, and they led us to activities in which we could “shine.” As a result, we are now women who are afraid of failure.
It is time to let your fears overwhelm your dreams, limit your world and take away your happiness.
By choosing to be brave instead of perfect, you can find self-confidence and leave behind anything that makes you unhappy and pursue the things that you really want with passion.
Perfectionism may put you on a path to feeling safe, but it takes your courage to the path you really want.

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