The lies we tell ourselves

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Title: The lies we tell ourselves: how to face the truth, accept ourselves and create a better life for ourselves

Author: John Frederickson

Translator: Neda Hamidizadeh

Publisher: Atisa

Subject: Truth / Denial / Self-acceptance – Psychology

Age category: Adult

Number of pages: 164

Language: Farsi

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The book of lies we tell ourselves is the work of John Frederickson.

Are you stuck in life? Do not know why? Does something seem wrong, but you do not know what it is?

In The Book of Lies We Tell, John Frederickson interprets the ways in which we deceive ourselves. Through dozens of stories and examples, he shows that the apparent cause of our problems is almost never the real cause.

In addition, he confronts us with the problems we struggle with and with the things that frighten us in life.

Frederickson shows us how to recognize the lies we tell ourselves and face the truths we have shunned, and stop saying yes when our answer is no.
Although we may resort to lies to escape pain, clinging to delusions actually becomes the source of more suffering. This book shows how we can create a better life by letting go of lies and confronting reality. It also shows that treatment is not just a conversation. It is a relationship between two people who are dedicated to facing the deepest truths of our lives so that we can be healed.

Excerpts from the book of lies we tell ourselves (text pleasure)

We all lie to ourselves to avoid pain in our lives. Hence, we are all equal as imperfect; So we can talk to each other with equal dignity and we are obliged to tell the truth to ourselves and others.

By doing so, we find a way to live in truth and with each other, that is, to see the lies we tell ourselves and to face the truths that we avoid. To hear the truth from another does not mean to surrender to him, but to surrender to something greater: the truth.
In life we ​​walk the paths that our lies have identified and only lead to suffering. When our suffering is overwhelming, we need someone to help us see the lies we believe and the lies we tell ourselves.
Because it is only by seeing these lies that we encounter the facts of our lives and return to the path of truth; And because, our lies make us sick and confront us with the facts.
This requires someone to help us see the lies and endure the pain they have hidden, and to hold our hand when we fall into the truths we avoid.
The book of lies we tell ourselves is a work by Jad Fred Rixon, translated by Elahe Kayhanfar and published by Aali Tabar Publications. This book reveals the lies and beliefs that bring us pain and suffering and the high impact of psychotherapy on our lives.

With the help of the present work, we accept the truths that lead to the health of our souls, we learn how to say no, and finally we find the way to get rid of inappropriate situations and people. This book helps us to stop being deceived and accept the truth of our existence.

Excerpts from the book
In psychotherapy, we often find that as a child, people received the message from their surroundings: “Lie, so that I can love you. “If you tell the truth, I will leave.” Even if they have not said these words orally to this person, they have often understood such a concept through their actions and behavior.

In response to this message, the child may sacrifice his or her cohesion, honesty, and even mental health to receive the love of his or her parents that he or she needs to survive. Many of us live in a way that obeys and carries out this destructive message.

Whether as a therapist or a friend of such people, we must live up to this message: “I am honest with you, because you are important to me.
If you embarrass me, your shame will not cause me to institutionalize this shame in my being. You accuse me of hurting you, but it is your lies that hurt you. Truth is the food of the soul, and therefore it can never harm you; “But the false thoughts that hide the truth of existence poison the soul.”

We all lie. When we ask someone to approach us, the old question arises: Can I tell you things that others can not bear to hear, or should I hide them?

In the past, we had to live a lie. The therapist asks us to let go of our lies so that we can live the truth.

The book of lies we tell ourselves, which is ostensibly about psychotherapy, is actually about what it means to be human.

We all lie to ourselves to avoid pain in our lives. Hence, we are all equal as imperfect and imperfect human beings; So we can talk to each other with equal dignity and we are obliged to tell the truth to ourselves and others.
By doing so, we find a way to live in truth and with each other by seeing the lies we tell ourselves and facing the truths we avoid. To hear the truth from another does not mean to surrender to him, but to surrender to something greater: the truth.

In life we ​​walk the paths that our lies have identified and that only lead to suffering.

When our suffering becomes excruciating, we need someone to help us see the lies we believe and the lies we tell ourselves.

Because it is only by seeing these lies that we encounter the facts of our lives and return to the path of truth; And because, our lies make us sick and confront us with the facts.
This requires someone to help us see the lies and endure the pain they have hidden, and to hold our hand when we fall into the truths we avoid.

There he works on a short-term dynamic psychiatric education program.

He is also the Head of the Comprehensive Dynamic Short-Term Psychotherapy Training Program (ISTDP) and also the School of ISTDP Training Program of the EDT Association of Italy and the Laboratorium Psykoeducaji in Warsaw.

John Frederickson trains in Norway, Sweden, Denmark, Poland, Italy, Lebanon and the United States.

Why do we lie to ourselves?

John Frederickson explains in The Lies We Tell ourselves that we turn to lying to escape the cause of our failures and sufferings. These lies are helpful at first, but over time, they can cause serious psychological and physical damage.

What does scanning psychotherapy mean?

Short-term, intensive psychotherapy is a method of psychotherapy that focuses on breaking down people’s defenses, that is, our thoughts, analyzes, interpretations, and lies, so as not to encounter our true feelings. This treatment is one of the most effective ways in the field of psychology.

Can reading the book of lies we tell ourselves replace psychotherapy?

The book of lies we tell ourselves can certainly enlighten and acquaint our minds with many dark aspects of our personality; Like a semi-dark book of existence. But the fact is that no book alone can replace psychotherapy. Psychotherapy requires interaction, conversation, and a two-way communication.

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